{"id":347,"date":"2013-06-01T15:36:09","date_gmt":"2013-06-01T13:36:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.kuranvesunnetyolunda.com\/?p=347"},"modified":"2013-11-30T11:03:56","modified_gmt":"2013-11-30T09:03:56","slug":"6-aile-hayati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kuranvesunnetyolunda.com\/?p=347","title":{"rendered":"6. \u00c2ile Hayat\u0131"},"content":{"rendered":"

Yarat\u0131l\u0131\u015f kanunlar\u0131na g\u00f6re erkek ve kad\u0131n birbirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 duyduklar\u0131 his, arzu ve meyillerle donat\u0131lm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.[1]<\/a> Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla insan, f\u0131trat\u0131 \u00eec\u00e2b\u0131 bir \u00e2ile kurmaya ve o \u00e2ile i\u00e7inde ya\u015famaya muhta\u00e7t\u0131r. Bunun h\u00e2ricindeki bir hayat, insana sa\u00e2det ve huzur vermekten uzakt\u0131r. Ancak bu ihtiyac\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131 geli\u015fi g\u00fczel de\u011fil, nik\u00e2h \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcleri \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

En tabi\u00ee g\u0131das\u0131 muhabbet ve al\u00e2ka olan kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin birbirlerine olan y\u00f6neli\u015f ve muhabbetleri nik\u00e2h sayesinde farkl\u0131 bir m\u00e2n\u00e2 ve boyut kazan\u0131r. Bir \u00e2yet-i ker\u00eemede evlili\u011fin sevgi ve huzur vesilesi oldu\u011fu \u015f\u00f6yle ifade edilmi\u015ftir:<\/p>\n

\u201cKendileriyle huz\u00fbra kavu\u015fman\u0131z i\u00e7in, size kendi nefislerinizden e\u015fler yarat\u0131p aran\u0131zda muhabbet ve merhamet var etmesi de O\u2019nun \u00e2yetlerindendir <\/b>(birli\u011finin ve kudretinin delillerindendir.) \u015e\u00fcphesiz ki bunlarda, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen bir kavim i\u00e7in ibretler vard\u0131r.\u201d <\/b>(R\u00fbm, 21)<\/p>\n

Ras\u00fblullah r \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur:<\/p>\n

\u201cBirbirini sevenler i\u00e7in nik\u00e2h (evlilik) kadar sevgiyi art\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bir \u015fey g\u00f6r\u00fclmemi\u015ftir.\u201d<\/i> (\u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h, 1)<\/p>\n

D\u00een\u00ee Hayat<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Evlilik, ki\u015finin din\u00ee hayat\u0131n\u0131 en g\u00fczel \u015fekilde ya\u015famas\u0131 ve korumas\u0131 i\u00e7in son derece l\u00fczumlu bir m\u00fcessesedir. Bu sebeple evlenirken dindar, g\u00fczel ahl\u00e2k sahibi e\u015fleri se\u00e7mek ve dindar bir \u00e2ile kurmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak \u00eecab eder. Ras\u00fblullah r bu hususu \u015f\u00f6yle ifade buyurur:<\/p>\n

\u201cKad\u0131n d\u00f6rt sebepten biri i\u00e7in nik\u00e2hlan\u0131r: Mal\u0131, nesebi, g\u00fczelli\u011fi ve dindarl\u0131\u011f\u0131. Sen dindar olan\u0131 se\u00e7 ki hay\u0131r ve bereket g\u00f6resin!\u201d <\/i>(Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Nik\u00e2h, 15, M\u00fcslim, Rad\u00e2, 53)<\/p>\n

\u201cD\u00fcnya ge\u00e7ici bir faydadan ibarettir. Onun fayda sa\u011flayan en hay\u0131rl\u0131 varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 dindar kad\u0131nd\u0131r.\u201d<\/i> (M\u00fcslim, Rad\u00e2\u2018, 64)<\/p>\n

\u201cTohumunuzu b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z rahme dikkat edin!\u201d<\/i> (\u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h, 46)<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cKim evlenirse iman\u0131n yar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 tamamlam\u0131\u015f olur; kalan di\u011fer yar\u0131s\u0131 hakk\u0131nda ise Allah\u2019tan korksun!\u201d <\/i>(Heysem\u00ee, IV, 252)<\/p>\n

Kur\u2019\u00e2n\u2019a g\u00f6re kad\u0131n ve erkek, ayn\u0131 zamanda birbirinin eksi\u011fini ve zaaf\u0131n\u0131 kapatan, birbirini g\u00fcnahlardan koruyan, biyolojik m\u00e2n\u00e2da oldu\u011fu kadar psikolojik ve ahl\u00e2k\u00ee a\u00e7\u0131dan da birbirini tamamlayan iki cins olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. \u00c2yet-i kerimede \u015f\u00f6yle buyrulur:<\/p>\n

\u201cOnlar sizin i\u00e7in, siz de onlar i\u00e7in birer elbisesiniz.\u201d<\/b> (Bakara, 187)<\/p>\n

\u00c2ilenin en g\u00fczel taraf\u0131 g\u00f6n\u00fcl meyveleri olan evlatlard\u0131r. Ki\u015finin han\u0131m\u0131 ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla huzurlu bir hayat s\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc \u00e2ile yuvas\u0131, \u00e2deta bir cennet k\u00f6\u015fesidir.<\/p>\n

Evlili\u011fe Te\u015fvik<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u0130sl\u00e2m evlili\u011fe \u00e7ok ehemmiyet verir. Y\u00fcce Rabbimiz nik\u00e2ha te\u015fvik etmek \u00fczere \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u0130\u00e7inizden bek\u00e2r olanlar\u0131, k\u00f6le ve c\u00e2riyelerinizden nik\u00e2ha m\u00fcsait olanlar\u0131 evlendirin! E\u011fer fakir iseler, <\/b>Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2 lutfundan onlar\u0131 zenginle\u015ftirir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc <\/b>Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2 V\u00e2si\u2018 <\/b>(rahmeti geni\u015f olan ve) Al\u00eem <\/b>(her \u015feyi bilen)dir.\u201d<\/b> <\/b>(N\u00fbr, 32)<\/p>\n

Cen\u00e2b-\u0131 Hak, evlenen insanlara madd\u00ee y\u00f6nden rahatl\u0131k lutfetti\u011fi gibi muhabbet, \u00fclfet ve g\u00f6z\u00fcl zenginli\u011fi de ihs\u00e2n eder ve kazand\u0131klar\u0131 yeni akrabalarla onlar\u0131n i\u00e7tim\u00e2\u00ee \u00e7evrelerini geni\u015fletir.<\/p>\n

Ras\u00fblullah r Efendimiz de evlileri kollar, onlara elinden gelen yard\u0131m\u0131 yapard\u0131. Kendisine ganimet mallar\u0131 gelince, hemen g\u00fcn\u00fcnde da\u011f\u0131t\u0131r, evliye iki hisse, bek\u00e2ra bir hisse verirdi. (Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Har\u00e2c, 14\/2953)<\/p>\n

Ras\u00fblullah r evlili\u011fe te\u015fvik ederek \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmu\u015ftur:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u0130\u00e7inizden evlenmeye g\u00fcc\u00fc yetenler evlensinler. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc evlilik g\u00f6z\u00fc haramlardan ve iffeti zin\u00e2dan en iyi muhafaza eden bir v\u00e2s\u0131tad\u0131r.\u201d<\/i> (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Savm, 10)<\/i><\/p>\n

\u201cNik\u00e2h benim s\u00fcnnetimdendir. Kim benim s\u00fcnnetimle amel etmezse benden de\u011fildir. Evleniniz! Zira ben, di\u011fer \u00fcmmetlere kar\u015f\u0131 sizin \u00e7oklu\u011funuzla iftihar edece\u011fim. Kimin madd\u00ee imk\u00e2n\u0131 varsa hemen evlensin. Kim madd\u00ee imk\u00e2n bulamazsa oru\u00e7 tutsun. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc oru\u00e7, onun i\u00e7in kalkand\u0131r, \u015fehvetini k\u0131rarak kendisini g\u00fcnahlara kar\u015f\u0131 korur.\u201d<\/i> (\u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h, 1)<\/p>\n

\u00dcmmetini her hususta \u00eetid\u00e2le d\u00e2vet ederken de \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmu\u015ftur:<\/p>\n

\u201cDikkat edin vallahi ben sizin Allah\u2019tan en \u00e7ok korkan\u0131n\u0131z ve O\u2019na kar\u015f\u0131 en fazla takv\u00e2 sahibi olan\u0131n\u0131z\u0131m. Fakat ben bazen oru\u00e7 tutuyor bazen tutmuyorum. Gece hem namaz k\u0131l\u0131yor hem de uyuyorum. Kad\u0131nlarla da evleniyorum. Benim s\u00fcnnetimden y\u00fcz \u00e7eviren kimse benden de\u011fildir.\u201d <\/i>(Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Nik\u00e2h, 1; M\u00fcslim, Nik\u00e2h, 5. Ayr\u0131ca bk. Nes\u00e2\u00ee, Nik\u00e2h 4)<\/p>\n

Ras\u00fblullah r vakti gelen gen\u00e7leri evlendirmeye ve bunlar aras\u0131nda arabuluculuk yapmaya te\u015fvik ederek \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur:<\/p>\n

\u201cDini ve ahl\u00e2k\u0131 ho\u015funuza giden birisi size gelip k\u0131z talep ederse onu evlendirin! B\u00f6yle yapmazsan\u0131z, yery\u00fcz\u00fcnde fitne ve geni\u015f bir fesad \u00e7\u0131kar.\u201d<\/i> (Tirmiz\u00ee, Nik\u00e2h, 3\/1084)<\/p>\n

\u201cEy Ali! \u015eu \u00fc\u00e7 \u015feyi sak\u0131n geciktirme: Vakti gelince namaz\u0131, haz\u0131rland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda cen\u00e2zeyi, dengini buldu\u011funda bek\u00e2r veya dul kad\u0131n\u0131 evlendirmeyi.\u201d<\/i> (Tirmiz\u00ee, Sal\u00e2t, 13\/171; Ahmed, I, 105)<\/p>\n

\u201cEn hay\u0131rl\u0131 \u015fefaatlerden biri, evlenecek iki ki\u015finin aras\u0131nda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmakt\u0131r.\u201d<\/i> (\u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h, 49)<\/p>\n

Efendimiz r imk\u00e2n\u0131 varken evlenmeyen bir sah\u00e2b\u00eeye \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmu\u015ftur:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2013\u0130mk\u00e2n\u0131n varken evlenmiyorsan o h\u00e2lde sen \u015feytanlar\u0131n karde\u015flerindensin. E\u011fer sen hristiyanlar i\u00e7inde olsayd\u0131n, onlar\u0131n ruhbanlar\u0131ndan olurdun. Bizim s\u00fcnnetimiz evlenmektir. En \u015ferlileriniz bek\u00e2rlar\u0131n\u0131zd\u0131r, \u00f6l\u00fclerinizin en \u015ferlileri de bek\u00e2r olarak \u00f6lenlerdir. \u015eeytanla m\u0131 g\u00f6n\u00fcl e\u011flendiriyorsunuz? \u015eeytan\u0131n, s\u00e2lih ki\u015filere kar\u015f\u0131, kad\u0131nlardan daha tesirli bir silah\u0131 yoktur. Ancak evliler bunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r. Onlar temizdirler, m\u00fcstehcen s\u00f6z ve fiillerden uzakt\u0131rlar. Ey Akk\u00e2f! Yaz\u0131klar olsun sana! Kad\u0131nlar Eyy\u00fbb, D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Yusuf ve K\u00fcrs\u00fcf ile u\u011fra\u015fm\u0131\u015f, onlar i\u00e7in imtihan v\u00e2s\u0131tas\u0131 olmu\u015flard\u0131r\u201d <\/i>buyurdu. Bunun \u00fczerine Bi\u015fr bin Atiyye:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2013K\u00fcrs\u00fcf<\/b> kimdir ey Allah\u2019\u0131n Ras\u00fbl\u00fc?\u201d diye sordu. Ras\u00fblullah r:<\/p>\n

\u201c\u2013Deniz sahillerinin birinde g\u00fcnd\u00fczleri oru\u00e7 tutup geceleri namaz k\u0131larak \u00fc\u00e7 y\u00fcz sene Allah\u2019a ibadet eden bir ki\u015fiydi. Bu z\u00e2t, \u00e2\u015f\u0131k oldu\u011fu bir kad\u0131n y\u00fcz\u00fcnden Allah\u2019\u0131 ink\u00e2r etti, k\u00fcfre d\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc ve yapmakta oldu\u011fu ibadeti terk etti. Sonra Allah, kendisinde bulunan baz\u0131 g\u00fczel hasletler sebebiyle onu eski h\u00e2line \u00e7evirdi ve tevbesini kabul buyurdu. Yaz\u0131klar olsun sana ey Akk\u00e2f! Evlen, yoksa ortada kalan \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nlardan<\/i> olursun!\u201d<\/i> buyurdu\u2026 (Ahmed, V, 163-164; Beyh\u00e2k\u00ee, \u015eu\u00e2b\u00fc\u2019l-\u0130man,<\/i> IV, 381-382)<\/p>\n

Gerek kad\u0131n\u0131n gerekse erke\u011fin birbirinden \u00fcst\u00fcn taraflar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Her iki taraf\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn meziyetleri \u00e2ile \u00e7at\u0131s\u0131 alt\u0131nda birle\u015ftirilir ve b\u00f6ylece \u00e2ilenin hem ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 hem de saadeti temin edilmi\u015f olur.<\/p>\n

Mesuliyetler<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u00dc\u00e7 ki\u015fi yolculu\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda birini \u00e2mir t\u00e2yin etmelerini isteyen[2]<\/a> \u0130sl\u00e2m, \u00e2ileyi de lidersiz b\u0131rakmam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Erkekler g\u00fc\u00e7 ve kuvvet y\u00f6n\u00fcnden daha ileri oldu\u011fundan, Cenab-\u0131 Hak, \u00e2ilenin sorumlulu\u011funu birinci derecede onlara y\u00fcklemi\u015ftir. \u00c2yet-i kerimede \u015f\u00f6yle buyrulur:<\/p>\n

\u201cErkekler, kad\u0131nlar \u00fczerinde y\u00f6netici ve koruyucudurlar. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Allah, insanlar\u0131n kimini kiminden \u00fcst\u00fcn k\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bir de erkekler kendi mallar\u0131ndan harcamakta <\/b>(ve \u00e2ilenin ge\u00e7imini sa\u011flamakta)d\u0131r. S\u00e2liha kad\u0131nlar itaatk\u00e2rd\u0131r. Allah\u2019\u0131n kendilerini korumas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k gizliyi<\/b> (kimse g\u00f6rmese de namuslar\u0131n\u0131) muhafaza ederler..<\/b>.\u201d<\/b> (Nis\u00e2, 34)<\/p>\n

Bu \u00e2yet-i kerime bir taraftan erkeklerin h\u00e2kimiyetini, di\u011fer taraftan da kad\u0131nlar\u0131n k\u0131ymet ve faziletini haber veriyor. \u00c2yet-i kerimede erkeklerin s\u0131fat\u0131 olarak zikredilen \u201ckavv\u00e2m\u201d<\/b> kelimesi; \u201ckad\u0131nlar\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layan, onlar\u0131 zarar ve s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lardan koruyan, evin d\u0131\u015f\u0131ndaki a\u011f\u0131r i\u015fleri yapan\u201d \u015feklinde tefs\u00eer edilir. Bununla birlikte \u201chan\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131 e\u011fiten ve gerek Allah i\u00e7in gerek kendi \u015fah\u0131slar\u0131 i\u00e7in yapmalar\u0131 gereken hususlarda onlar\u0131n elinden tutan, i\u015flerini takip eden\u201d diye de anla\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n

L\u00e2kin erke\u011fin h\u00e2kim olmas\u0131 e\u015fine tahakk\u00fcm etme \u015feklinde de\u011fil, onu himaye ve koruma tarz\u0131ndad\u0131r. Mutlak de\u011fil, kay\u0131tl\u0131 ve \u015fartl\u0131d\u0131r. Erke\u011fin, kad\u0131n\u0131n hak ve huk\u00fbkunu g\u00f6zetmesi gerekir. M\u00fcsl\u00fcman bir erkek han\u0131m\u0131na aynen Ras\u00fblullah r gibi davranmal\u0131, \u00e2ilesine muhabbet beslemeli, de\u011fer vermeli, ev i\u015flerinde yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmal\u0131 ve ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131lamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u015eunu unutmamal\u0131d\u0131r ki, m\u00fcsl\u00fcman kad\u0131nlar, bilerek veya bilmeyerek erke\u011finde Peygamber Efendimiz\u2019in o g\u00fczel vas\u0131flar\u0131n\u0131n izlerini ararlar. Bulabildikleri nisbette mesut, bulamad\u0131klar\u0131 nisbette bedbaht olurlar.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Ras\u00fblullah r \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur:<\/p>\n

\u201cKi\u015finin, ge\u00e7imini sa\u011flamakla y\u00fck\u00fcml\u00fc oldu\u011fu kimseleri ihm\u00e2l etmesi, ona g\u00fcnah olarak yeter!\u201d <\/i>(M\u00fcslim, Zek\u00e2t, 40; Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Zek\u00e2t, 45)<\/p>\n

\u00c2ile reisi erkek olmakla birlikte bu m\u00fcessesenin i\u015fleyi\u015finde ve muhafazas\u0131nda kad\u0131n\u0131n da bir k\u0131s\u0131m vazifeleri vard\u0131r. Zira yuva m\u00fc\u015fterektir ve ona d\u00e2ir hak ve vazifeler de m\u00fc\u015fterektir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla \u0130sl\u00e2m, erke\u011fin \u00fcstlendi\u011fi bu mesuliyetlere muk\u00e2bil kad\u0131n\u0131n da kocas\u0131na itaat etmesini istemi\u015f ve bu itaati ibadet saym\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Erkek vazifesini yapar, \u00e2ilesine kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00fczel davran\u0131r, kad\u0131n da ona kar\u015f\u0131 gereken muhabbet, h\u00fcrmet ve itaati g\u00f6sterirse \u00e2ile i\u00e7i nizam ve \u00e2henk sa\u011flanm\u0131\u015f olur.<\/p>\n

Haklar<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c2ilede baban\u0131n, annenin ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n birbirleri \u00fczerinde haklar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Baba, han\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n her t\u00fcrl\u00fc e\u011fitim ve geli\u015fimiyle ilgilenir, ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 hel\u00e2linden temin ederek onlar\u0131 \u00e2hirete haz\u0131rlar. Anne, kocas\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 vaz\u00eefelerinde hassas davran\u0131r, evine ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na sahip \u00e7\u0131kar. Ak\u0131ll\u0131, fir\u00e2set sahibi, sab\u0131rl\u0131 ve kanaat ehli olup israftan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131r. Anne-baba, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 muhabbet ve ad\u00e2letle davran\u0131r, ayr\u0131mc\u0131l\u0131k yapmazlar. \u00c7ocuklar da anne babalar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 son derece h\u00fcrmet ve muhabbet hisleriyle dolu olur, onlara itaat ederek hizmetlerinde kusur etmezler.<\/p>\n

Baban\u0131n temin edece\u011fi mesken, \u00e2ile fertlerini rahat\u00e7a bar\u0131nd\u0131rabilecek geni\u015flikte ve m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011fu kadar iyi bir semt ve g\u00fczel kom\u015fular aras\u0131nda olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Anne baba, \u00e2ile i\u00e7inde affedici ve uysal olmal\u0131; muhabbet, \u015fefkat ve merhamet hislerini \u00f6nde tutmal\u0131d\u0131r. Biri, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131kla herhangi bir yemin edip sonra onun hay\u0131r olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, \u0131srarc\u0131 olmamal\u0131, hemen yemininden vazge\u00e7ip keff\u00e2ret vermelidir. (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Eym\u00e2n 1, Keff\u00e2r\u00e2t 10; M\u00fcslim, Eym\u00e2n 7, 26)<\/p>\n

Allah Ras\u00fbl\u00fc r kocas\u0131n\u0131n hakk\u0131n\u0131 \u00eef\u00e2 eden kad\u0131na \u015fu m\u00fcjdeyi verir:<\/p>\n

\u201cKocas\u0131 kendisinden memnun oldu\u011fu h\u00e2lde \u00f6len kad\u0131n cennete girer.\u201d <\/i>(Tirmiz\u00ee, Rad\u00e2` 10\/1161; \u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h 4)<\/p>\n

Anne-baba \u00fczerinde evlatlar\u0131n da hakk\u0131 vard\u0131r. Ras\u00fblullah r \u015f\u00f6yle buyurur:<\/p>\n

\u201cAllah Te\u00e2l\u00e2 (Kur\u2019\u00e2n-\u0131 Ker\u00eem\u2019de) baz\u0131 kullar\u0131n\u0131 \u00abEbr\u00e2r\u00bb<\/b> diye isimlendirmi\u015ftir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc onlar hem baba ve annelerine hem de \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na iyilik ve ihsanda bulunmu\u015flard\u0131r. Anne-baban\u0131n senin \u00fczerinde haklar\u0131 oldu\u011fu gibi, ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde \u00e7ocu\u011funun da senin \u00fczerinde hakk\u0131 vard\u0131r.\u201d<\/i> (Heysem\u00ee, VIII, 268)<\/p>\n

Cen\u00e2b-\u0131 Hak, \u00e2ileye bir yavru lutfetti\u011finde, sa\u011f kula\u011f\u0131na ezan, sol kula\u011f\u0131na da k\u00e2met okuyarak ona g\u00fczel bir isim<\/b> vermek, anne-baban\u0131n ba\u015fta gelen vaz\u00eefesidir.[3]<\/a> Durumu m\u00fcs\u00e2id olanlar, do\u011fumdan bir hafta sonra Allah\u2019a \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr i\u00e7in Ak\u00eeka<\/b> kurban\u0131 kesmeli, \u00e7ocu\u011fu t\u0131ra\u015f ederek sa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131nca g\u00fcm\u00fc\u015f\u00fc fakirlere inf\u00e2k etmelidir. (Buh\u00e2r\u00ee, Ak\u00eeka, 1, 2; Muvatta\u2019,<\/i> Ak\u00eeka, 2, 3)[4]<\/a><\/p>\n

Bu anlat\u0131lanlar z\u00e2viyesinden bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, \u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019da \u201ckad\u0131nlar\u0131n erkeklere esir oldu\u011fu\u201d y\u00f6n\u00fcndeki iddialar\u0131n tamamen yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Zira \u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019da kad\u0131n erkekten daha rahat bir hayat ya\u015far. Erkek kad\u0131n\u0131n nafakas\u0131n\u0131 temin ile m\u00fckellef k\u0131l\u0131n\u0131rken, kad\u0131n bundan muaf tutulur, bunun yerine kad\u0131na en zevkli bir vazife olarak \u201c\u00e7ocuk terbiyesi\u201d verilir. Bug\u00fcn kad\u0131n h\u00fcrriyeti diye ortaya at\u0131lan \u015feyler, kad\u0131nlar\u0131n ancak sef\u00e2lete d\u00fc\u015fmesine yol a\u00e7m\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u0130sl\u00e2m ise onlar\u0131n iffet ve namuslar\u0131n\u0131 korumakta, \u015feref ve haysiyetlerini muhafaza alt\u0131na almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n


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[1]<\/a> \u00c2l-i \u0130mr\u00e2n, 14.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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[2]<\/a> Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Cih\u00e2d, 80\/2609.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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[3]<\/a> Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Edeb, 61, 106, 107.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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[4]<\/a> Osman N\u00fbri Topba\u015f, Faziletler Medeniyeti,<\/i> II, 417-428; http:\/\/faziletlermedeniyeti2.darulerkam.altinoluk.com\/b-aile-hakki\/<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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