Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2\u2019n\u0131n, insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n devam\u0131na vesile k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir m\u00fcessese olan \u00e2ile, ilk insan Hz. \u00c2dem -aleyhissel\u00e2m- ile ba\u015flam\u0131\u015f ve Res\u00fblullah -sallall\u00e2hu aleyhi ve sellem- Efendimiz\u2019in hayat\u0131nda en k\u00e2mil mertebeye ula\u015fm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Hak\u00eem-i Mutlak olan Allah, her \u015feyi derin ve ince bir hikmet \u00fczere yaratm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Erkek ve kad\u0131n\u0131n hilkat hususiyetlerinden ba\u015flayarak, f\u0131tratlar\u0131n\u0131n birbirini tamamlamas\u0131, birbirlerine duyduklar\u0131 hisler ve al\u00e2kalar\u0131, bu duygular\u0131n\u0131 tatmin yollar\u0131 vs. hepsi bir gaye i\u00e7in halkedilmi\u015ftir. Bunlar, yarat\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131 hedef do\u011frultusunda kullan\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131nda, insan k\u00e2inatla bir \u00e2henk i\u00e7inde olur ve r\u00fbh\u00ee b\u00f6l\u00fcnmeler ya\u015famaz. D\u00fcnyas\u0131 da \u00e2hireti de cennet olur. Bunun aksine, kendisine verilen hususiyetleri ve imk\u00e2nlar\u0131 il\u00e2h\u00ee t\u00e2limatlar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda kullanmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, anl\u0131k hazlar\u0131n\u0131 saadet zannederek bedbahtl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 iyice art\u0131r\u0131r ve daha d\u00fcnyada iken kendisini buhranlar\u0131n girdab\u0131nda bulur.<\/p>\n
S\u00fcnnetullah \u00eec\u00e2b\u0131, kad\u0131n ve erkek birbirlerine kar\u015f\u0131 duyduklar\u0131 his, arzu, ve meyillerle donat\u0131lm\u0131\u015flard\u0131r. (\u00c2l-i \u0130mr\u00e2n, 3\/14) Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2 insana, f\u0131trat\u0131na uygun olarak bu duygular\u0131 vermi\u015f ve bu meyillerin tatmin yolunu da belli kaidelere ba\u011flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. S\u00f6z konusu hudutlar, en g\u00fczel ifadesiyle, s\u00fcnnete uygun evliliklerdir. \u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019a uygun olmayan evlenmeler, ili\u015fkiler ve meyiller ise me\u015fru say\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f ve yasaklanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc, b\u00f6yle ili\u015fkiler bir \u00e7\u0131kmaz sokakt\u0131r ve \u00e2kibeti h\u00fcsrand\u0131r. Bu hususta s\u00f6z s\u00e2hibi, insan\u0131 yaratan, ona bu f\u0131trat\u0131 veren ve nih\u00e2yetinde onu amellerinden hesaba \u00e7ekecek olan, H\u00e2l\u0131k-\u0131 Hak\u00eem\u2019dir. O\u2019nun koydu\u011fu hudutlar d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, do\u011fru bir ad\u0131m atman\u0131n imk\u00e2n\u0131 da t\u00fckenmi\u015f olur.<\/p>\n
Di\u011fer taraftan insan f\u0131traten meden\u00eedir. Cemiyet i\u00e7inde ya\u015famak mecburiyetindedir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 ve zaaflar\u0131 bunu gerekli k\u0131lar. Bunun en m\u00fchim basamaklar\u0131ndan biri \u00e2iledir. Erkek ve kad\u0131n birbirlerine muhta\u00e7 olarak yarat\u0131ld\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in bir \u00e2ile kurmadan f\u0131tratlar\u0131n\u0131 tatmin edip huzura kavu\u015famazlar. Kad\u0131n, \u00e7ocuk bak\u0131m\u0131na daha yatk\u0131n, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcklere g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcs germede daha zay\u0131f, hay\u00e2 ve eve ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131kta erkekten daha \u00fcst\u00fcn, ev i\u015flerinde daha becerikli ve erke\u011fe nisbetle daha itaatk\u00e2rd\u0131r. Erkek ise ak\u0131l ve tecr\u00fcbe bak\u0131m\u0131ndan daha \u00fcst\u00fcn, n\u00e2mus ve \u015ferefini muh\u00e2faza etme hususunda daha gayretli ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc, zor ve tehlikeli i\u015flere at\u0131lmada daha cesur, gayret ve k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k y\u00f6n\u00fcyle kad\u0131ndan daha k\u00e2mil bir miz\u00e2ca s\u00e2hiptir. Bu sebeple erkek ve kad\u0131n birbirine muhta\u00e7t\u0131r ve yek di\u011feri olmadan hayat\u0131n\u0131 tam m\u00e2n\u00e2s\u0131yla devam ettiremez. Kur\u2019\u00e2n-\u0131 Ker\u00eem\u2019de\u00a0 bu duruma \u015f\u00f6yle dikkat \u00e7ekilmektedir:<\/p>\n
\u201cOnlar sizin, siz de onlar i\u00e7in birer elbisesiniz.\u201d <\/b>(el-Bakara 2\/187)<\/p>\n
\u201c<\/b>(Ey insanlar! Erkek ve di\u015fi olmak \u00fczere) sizi \u00e7ift \u00e7ift yaratt\u0131k.\u201d<\/b> <\/b>(en-Nebe\u2019 78\/8)<\/p>\n
Res\u00fblullah -sallall\u00e2hu aleyhi ve sellem- \u00fcmmetinin \u00e7o\u011falmas\u0131n\u0131 arzulayarak onlar\u0131 \u015fu if\u00e2deleriyle evlili\u011fe te\u015fvik etmi\u015ftir:<\/p>\n
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\u201cNik\u00e2h benim s\u00fcnnetimdendir. Kim benim s\u00fcnnetimle amel etmezse benden de\u011fildir. Evleniniz! Zira ben, di\u011fer \u00fcmmetlere kar\u015f\u0131 sizin \u00e7oklu\u011funuzla iftihar edece\u011fim. Kimin imk\u00e2n\u0131 varsa evlensin. \u0130mk\u00e2n bulamayan da oruca devam etsin, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc oru\u00e7 onun i\u00e7in bir kalkand\u0131r.\u201d<\/i> (\u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h, 1)<\/p>\n
Allah Res\u00fbl\u00fc\u2019ne bir adam gelerek:<\/p>\n
\u2013 Ben evlenmek \u00fczere as\u00e2letli ve g\u00fczel bir kad\u0131n buldum, ancak k\u0131s\u0131rd\u0131r, \u00e7ocuk do\u011furmuyor, onunla evleneyim mi? diye\u00a0 sordu.<\/p>\n
Aleyhissal\u00e2t\u00fc vessel\u00e2m:<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2013 Hay\u0131r, evlenme!\u201d<\/i> buyurdular.<\/p>\n
Sonra adam ikinci sefer geldi, yine ayn\u0131 cevab\u0131 ald\u0131. Adam \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc sefer de gelince Res\u00fblullah -sallall\u00e2hu aleyhi ve sellem- \u015f\u00f6yle buyurdu:<\/p>\n
\u201c\u2013 Ved\u00fbd<\/i> (\u00e7ok seven) ve vel\u00fbd<\/i> (\u00e7ok do\u011furan)\u00a0 kad\u0131nlarla evlenin. Zira ben, di\u011fer \u00fcmmetlere kar\u015f\u0131 sizin \u00e7oklu\u011funuzla \u00f6v\u00fcnece\u011fim.\u201d<\/i> 45\u00a0(Eb\u00fb D\u00e2v\u00fbd, Nik\u00e2h, 3; Nesa\u00ee, Nik\u00e2h, 11)<\/p>\n
Allah Te\u00e2l\u00e2 nik\u00e2ha ayr\u0131 bir s\u0131r vermi\u015ftir. Nik\u00e2hta ker\u00e2met, bereket, faz\u00eelet ve s\u0131y\u00e2net vard\u0131r. Evlilik s\u00e2yesinde hayat\u0131 nizama giren insan kendini b\u00f6ylece haramlardan korumu\u015f, iffet ve n\u00e2musunu muh\u00e2faza etmi\u015f olur. Kad\u0131n ve erke\u011fin muhabbet ve meyilleri de nik\u00e2h s\u00e2yesinde farkl\u0131 bir m\u00e2n\u00e2 ve boyut kazan\u0131r. Nitekim Res\u00fblullah -sallall\u00e2hu aleyhi ve sellem-:<\/p>\n
\u201cBirbirini sevenler i\u00e7in nik\u00e2h kadar sevgiyi art\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bir \u015fey g\u00f6r\u00fclmedi\u201d<\/i> buyurmu\u015flard\u0131r. (\u0130bn-i M\u00e2ce, Nik\u00e2h, 1)<\/p>\n
Evlilik ferdi muh\u00e2faza etti\u011fi gibi toplumu da muhafaza eder. Z\u00eera fertler iffetli oldu\u011funda cemiyet de faz\u00eeletli h\u00e2le gelir. Buna i\u015f\u00e2retle Efendimiz -sallall\u00e2hu aleyhi ve sellem- \u015f\u00f6yle buyurmu\u015ftur:<\/p>\n
\u201cDini ve ahl\u00e2k\u0131 sizi memnun eden birisi k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 talep ederse onu evlendirin. B\u00f6yle yapmazsan\u0131z, yery\u00fcz\u00fcnde fitne ve b\u00fcy\u00fck bir fesad zuh\u00fbr eder.\u201d<\/i> (Tirmiz\u00ee, Nik\u00e2h, 3)<\/p>\n
\u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019da evlili\u011fin gayesi ve hikmeti, erkek ve kad\u0131n\u0131n huzur bulmas\u0131, neslin devam\u0131 ve g\u00fcnahlardan korunmad\u0131r. Kaz\u00e2y-\u0131 \u015fehvet an\u0131ndaki lezzet ise o vazifeyi if\u00e2 ettirmek i\u00e7in rahmet-i il\u00e2h\u00ee taraf\u0131ndan verilen c\u00fcz\u2019\u00ee bir \u00fccrettir. Cen\u00e2b-\u0131 Hak, erkekle kad\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 olarak birbirine c\u00e2zip g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi i\u00e7in, onlar\u0131n huzuru da evlilik yoluyla bir araya gelmelerine ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Kur\u2019\u00e2n-\u0131 Ker\u00eem\u2019de \u015f\u00f6yle buyrulur:<\/p>\n
\u201cKendileriyle huzura kavu\u015fman\u0131z i\u00e7in, size kendi nefislerinizden e\u015fler yarat\u0131p aran\u0131zda sevgi ve merhamet var etmesi de O\u2019nun \u00e2yetlerindendir. <\/b>(Birli\u011finin ve kudretinin delillerindendir.) \u015e\u00fcphesiz ki bunlarda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen bir kavim i\u00e7in \u00e2yetler vard\u0131r.\u201d <\/b>(er-R\u00fbm 30\/21)<\/b><\/p>\n
Mevl\u00e2n\u00e2 hazretleri bu hak\u00eekatleri kendi \u00fcsl\u00fbbunca \u015f\u00f6yle takdim etmektedir:<\/p>\n
\u201c\u00ab\u0130nsanlar i\u00e7in s\u00fcslenmi\u015ftir\u00bb<\/b> (\u00c2l-i \u0130mr\u00e2n, 14) \u00e2yeti gere\u011fince, Allah\u2019\u0131n s\u00fcsledi\u011fi, g\u00fczel yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 kad\u0131ndan nas\u0131l ka\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r?<\/p>\n
Allah, kad\u0131n\u0131 erkek onunla huzura kavu\u015fsun, rahatlas\u0131n, ona e\u015f olsun diye yaratt\u0131, Hz. \u00c2dem nas\u0131l olur da Hz. Havva\u2019dan ayr\u0131labilir?<\/p>\n
Erkek, yi\u011fitlikte Zalo\u011flu R\u00fcstem olsa, kahramanl\u0131kta Hz. Hamza\u2019y\u0131 bile ge\u00e7se, kendi kad\u0131n\u0131n\u0131n esiridir. (Mesnev\u00ee<\/i>, c. I, beyt: 2425-2427)<\/i><\/p>\n
\u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019\u0131n \u00f6\u011fretilip ya\u015fat\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 en ideal mek\u00e2nlar, s\u0131cak \u00e2ile yuvalar\u0131d\u0131r. E\u011fitimin, \u00f6\u011fretimin, terbiyenin en iyisi yine \u00e2ilede verilir. Allah korkusu, Allah muhabbeti, Res\u00fblullah sevgisi k\u00f6rpecik dima\u011flara en tatl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde bu yuvalarda a\u015f\u0131lan\u0131r. Din, dil, k\u00fclt\u00fcr, tefekk\u00fcr, anlay\u0131\u015f bu m\u00fcessese vas\u0131tas\u0131yla yeni nesillere nakledilir. Milletler buradan b\u00fcy\u00fcr ve buradan \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fcyerek mahvolur gider. Bu ehemmiyetine bin\u00e2en dinin ve insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n dostu olan kimseler \u00e2ileyi kuvvetlendirmeye gayret ederken, hayr\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fmanlar\u0131 da yine bu k\u00f6kleri dinamitlemeye \u00e7abalamaktad\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n
\u0130sl\u00e2m, insan f\u0131trat\u0131na g\u00f6re indirilmi\u015f ve insan i\u00e7in tebli\u011f edilmi\u015f bir dindir. Daha anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r bir tabirle \u201c\u0130sl\u00e2m, insan\u0131n hayat haritas\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d D\u00fcnya hayat\u0131n\u0131n her alan\u0131n\u0131 tanzim etmi\u015f ve a\u00e7\u0131klam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n cennete, cem\u00e2lull\u00e2ha kavu\u015fabilmesi i\u00e7in elde bulunan ve uyulmas\u0131 zarur\u00ee olan vazge\u00e7ilmez bir k\u0131lavuzdur. Muhtev\u00e2s\u0131ndaki esaslar ise, be\u015feriyete en k\u00e2mil \u015fekliyle, Peygamber Efendimiz\u2019in hayat\u0131nda sergilenmi\u015ftir. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla ebed\u00ee saadet i\u00e7in, \u0130sl\u00e2m\u2019\u0131n emirleri muv\u00e2cehesinde ve Sevgili Peygamberimiz\u2019in tatbik etti\u011fi \u015fekilde bir \u00e2ile kurmaya ve ya\u015famaya \u00eetina g\u00f6sterilmelidir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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